Carmina asked Mom Violy what kind of food she would like to eat for her upcoming birthday. Mom Violy said she was craving for a restaurant that serves steak and lobster. Carmina gave Mom Violy a list of restaurants for her to decide with a link of the websites for her to see which one look something she would like to try. One week before Mom Violy's birthday she made her final choice where she would like to try Mamou . Carmina had picked up Mom Violy at her home before heading to Gateway 2 located in Cubao, Quezon City. Mamou is located ground floor inside Gateway 2. Upon entering the person asked if we had any reservations however, they do except walk as well was seated at the table of our choice. The person had handed us the menu. Beverages Menu Bread and butter were served after we had placed our order. Our appetizer was the Mamou's Bacon Steak. Mom Violy decided to order her lobster tail with rice. Carmina had ordered Beer Battered Fish and Malt Vinegar with choice of pot
What happens when you get older? You become more sensitive and you become more emotional. You drive for attention. When you don't get your way you fight to those people who are next to you.
You are less patient.
Just recently my Mom called, me up. She was complaining what her friend post. I explaining to my Mom why does she have to complain what her friend post. Every one has to right to express what they are feeling.
It has nothing to do with her. That I couldn't understand why she made something so small a big deal to her.
My Mom started complaining about her other friend. I was telling my mom every one has their own problems that is apart of life. Everyone express how they feel when they reply to your message. I told my Mom why does she have to worry or complain to those who post things.
My Mom said. she also has problems. I told my Mom every one has their own problems and that is apart of life. It is up to them how they solve it.
Why can't she just leave it alone? I explained some of friends told me their problems. I don't want to tell her because it is private matter. Everyone will explain what situation they are in. It is up to them if they tell you or not. Some people choose who they can trust.
I learn to keep everything private if you want your friends to treat you the same way.
The problem when you get older you want to know about someone Else's life. Than you spread the news to someone else. That is what you call gossip. There are people who are avoiding to be gossip about their private life.
We are not celebrities and even those who are famous want to kept their private life private.
That is when I realized my Mom is getting older and she is more lonely. She is driving for attention. Attention what her friends are not giving her. Who knows they careless what attention you give each other.
The problem with my Mom when you don't give her the attention she wants to remove you from her life.
I realized she has no one just her family who is patient enough to deal with her emotional. I use to fight with my Mom in the past. I am sure any one has fought with their parents not because it was you who was wrong is because you talked back. Your parents didn't like how you acted toward them.
Sometimes they need to know they are not always right. If, I am wrong yes I would apologize.
The problem when my Mom is mad at you she has to cool off from you for a week. The only problem she will call up her friend or family member what has happened between you. Of, course those people will call you up and want to listen to your side.
I know my Mom too well she can't live without me. She depends on me too much. I am her personal assistance, secretary, technician, teacher and so many position I have as a daughter.
There are times you want to be left alone and give each other space.
My Mom worries because most of her friends has left and gone to heaven. Sometimes she tells me she maybe next. I keep telling my Mom not to think that way. Keep traveling do the things you want to do. When it is time you too will leave.
Than she start telling me she is worried for me when she leaves me behind. I explained to my Mom yes it will be sad for me and it will take a long time to recover. I believe my family and my friends will be there for me when that time does come. I will think of it once it is there.
Honestly, I know it will be hard for me since I have spent so many years with her and we have gotten close. She even calls me as her close friend.
For now we should just enjoy our life the fullest. Do things we want to do and not take our life for granted.
Tips to Deal with Your Elderly Parents:
- Be patient with them
- Show them you care for them
- Listen to their stories even it has been repeated
- Guide them as when they had guide you when you we're young
- Give them the attention they need
- Tell them you love them
- Call them on a daily basis just to check up
They say, when you get older you go back being a kid all over again, I think that is true.
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