Mom Violy told me she wanted to order the Paella Negra from Dean & Deluca. Carmina suggested we dine in since we’d never really tried their main courses, always just getting takeout with the cream puffs . Mom Violy agreed, and we arrived about thirty minutes before the lunch rush began. The service was very slow, even though we had ordered ahead of time. They mistakenly brought out the Paella Valenciana , despite Mom Violy repeating the order three times to the person who took it. It turned out the cook on duty made the error, even though it was written down clearly. We know Paella Negra takes a long time to prepare, which is why Mom Violy had requested it to be cooked beforehand. She wanted it as her main meal, but because of the mix-up and feeling hungry, she took a piece of Carmina’s Turkey Club Sandwich and asked for the bacon on the side. I didn’t expect the turkey to be just one piece, and the bread was toasted so hard that it removed one layer of the sandwich. Since ...
The year of my
mom's generation my mom told me when someone was kissing in the movie theater
that was consider a big "no no". At that time she thought when you
kiss someone you would get pregnant from it.
During our adolescence we are clueless how dating really is when your
parents never explained what it feels when a man and a woman likes you.
How do you find about dating? Some people are told by their friends and
they tend to copy each other. Others learn from the education given by school
from the birds and the bee's. Or we just follow what we see on the television
show.
I started dating in the year 1990's my parents we're very strict with
me. They loved it when my first boyfriend was a long distance relationship. I
only saw him once a month; He would fly between his school and work just to
visit me during the weekend.
Our relationship didn't last since he was looking for someone to get
married. I wasn't ready for marriage that time.
I was just starting to date, dress up and finding my way to the social
life. My parents didn't allow us to attend high school dances or wear make up.
I hated my parents being so strict. I looked like a nerd and no one liked
me.
After my first break up I didn't date right away. I gave myself at least
one year to get over the relationship. I had this theory I had to get to know
that person at least a year before I had dated him.
I met guys who had low esteem they felt I was middle class and I
had more than what they couldn't give me.
I also dated someone who was two timing during our relationship and
found out after he called me a different name.
I also had dated a guy who pretends he was in an accident to see if I
really cared for him. I even felt that story was true. I remember I was working
that time. I couldn't get it off my mind thinking your boyfriend was in a car
accident.
The next day my boyfriend told me he made up the story. That moment I
realized I couldn't trust that person. He had to overcome his insecurity toward
our relationship.
I also dated a guy who was just after my salary. He always said, he
would pay me back and he never did. That is when I had opened my eyes he only
loved me because I had the money. He didn't love and respect me. I was his ATM.
I am not sure
if anyone met someone the first time and said. "I Love you" without
knowing each other. I went to a birthday party of my close friend. There was a
stranger who just came up to me and said, "I love you". I told the
guy how you can say those three words when you only met me.
I found out later this guy was looking for someone to fix his papers
since he came from another country and his visa was about to expire.
It was hard for me to meet the right person since my parents wanted me
to marry someone the same nationality.
As I got older I wanted to date someone who wasn't Filipino. I guess
from all my bad experiences I have dealt with them being so insecure and
feeling they couldn't supplement what my parents could provide me.
Yes, I was pretty. Did you know pretty girls also have a difficult
finding the right man?
During our time getting married was the final thing.
We only met people being matched by our parents. pen pal from the
newspaper advertisement, dance clubs, school, work, gym and so on.
Living in wasn't an option that time. Not how it is now in the year 2000
where you don't need to marry someone right away. You can live in with that
person before you decide to settle down with each other.
You meet people on online dating there are more opportunity to meet your
destiny and soul mate.
I wish we had that kind of opportunity when I was dating.
You notice more people who had less opportunity tend to file for
separation or divorce realizing the one they had married is not the one for
them.
Or you just loose that interest for each other no more sparks in your
life. Or someone has had an affair and you are not special to that person
any more.
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